Sometimes being a parent is all about doing the right thing even when it makes someone, like maybe your child, angry with you. This has been a week where that has been necessary. We have had to intervene in a friendship for Mikey that was taking him in a wrong direction.
I have not enjoyed this...at all!
Mikey is not thrilled with me, at this point!
Interestingly, though, this week has also been hard for two of my friends in almost the same way. They have had to parent the hard way.
You know, I guess that is truly what parenting is. It is natural to love our children and to enjoy their company.
It is hard to do those things that bring their wrath.
We put this intervention off as long as we could and as long as Mikey was taking steps to get himself out of the situation but the friend just could not take "no" for an answer.
We only get a few years to help these young people learn how to make the right decisions and then they are on their own. We are very proud of Mikey for the conclusions he came to. He was really trying to do the right thing.
We hope he forgives us soon for stepping in and amputating the diseased friendship.
Anybody been there? Is there hope?
We are continuing to include Mikey in every family activity so he is not left alone in the house. He grumbles at the beginning but eventually warms up to the fun going on around him. We had a nice dinner, ok it was getting nice towards the end, at a local pizzeria last evening and then came home for a Wii nine hole golf game.
He beat his Grandma who has golfed all over the country.
My prayer is that one day he will be glad for our help in this situation that was over his head. I am thankful that we were able to take this step before he got his driver's license next year. Hopefully this person will be out of his system by then.
Please pray with me that Mikey will come to see himself through the love of Christ. He hates himself right now as he deals with a very bad case of acne. It is tough. But he is so funny and likable. So popular with everyone but himself.
I think of Mark Lowery's song, This Too Shall Pass!
It will...so soon our children will be out on their own and we will be remembering these days and shaking our heads...then we will whip out those 50 gazillion photos of the grandchildren and B-R-A-G!!!!
Then we will say a prayer for our children as they, ahem, get back everything they gave us? As they parent their children!
Thanks for listening...