Wednesday, January 27, 2010
A Favorite Necklace
This necklace lives in
a special box. A box that
was given to me by a friend
of the family when his mother
Jane had Alzheimer's. In her
early years she was a very capable
RN who had lived in Panama
before coming back to live in
York, Pa as a neighbor and
part of the family to Warren's
Grandma Charlotte. Her son,
Jim, and Warren's Mom, Georgia,
were raised almost like siblings.
The families did many things together.
I first met Jim and Jane up at Potter
County at the cabin. I liked them both
It was so sad when Jane began showing
signs of Alzheimer's. She would turn
burners on and walk away or walk to
the Fairground in her Sunday best at
an odd time...planning to attend a
In the later stages, Jane, became violent.
Trust me when I tell you that it was the
disease. This was not anything like the
Jane we had known for years.
It became impossible for Jim to get
her out to a hairdresser. Jane had always
been an immaculate dresser and her hair was
always coiffed just so.
It was hard for Jim to accept that she couldn't
be allowed to look as she had.
He asked if I would mind
coming in and
cutting her hair.
I did not mind
one little bit.
It took three of us.
Two to gently restrain Jane, as she would
attempt to pinch or bite,
and I would wash and cut her hair.
It was never as it would have been
had a professional done it.
Even if I had been a professional there
was always the fact that I was working
around Georgia's hands while she held
Jane's head to keep us safe.
But I know that Jane had to be more
comfortable with her hair washed and
manageable. So we did this on a
fairly regular basis.
at the decline of
our dear friend.
After Jane was released from the
disease to her eternal resting place
Jim gave me a box containing
some of Jane's jewelry.
Now this box also contains
jewelry that once belonged to
so intertwined in life,
now their jewelry mixed
as it waits to be worn.
I don't wear much jewelry.
I frankly just don't think
to put it on, but I do pull
these pieces out and look
Occasionally I will
wear a necklace
I did on Sunday
and I was thinking
of these special
friends as I did so.
Alzheimer's is a horrible
disease. It is a thief.
But, there is so much we can
do to make its victims more
comfortable and to assist their
families. It is exhausting to
be a full time caregiver to someone
in the advanced stages.
If you know someone in this situation
I do hope you'll feel free to offer
help. You just never know how some
of your time to sit and visit while
that person gets a small break...
They'll be able to tell you what
would be helpful if you are sincere.
Hope you are having a wonderful
and rewarding day.
I am making candles to help raise
money for Haiti. A local church has
asked to sell them for this purpose.
I'm putting a little extra love in