Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Surprise Flowers Release Special Memories

Saturday would have been my Grandma Esther's
87th birthday.  This is our first year without her.

My Aunt, who Grandma lived with, could not allow
the day to go by unnoticed and sent flowers to Mom,
my Uncle Chuck and Grandma's church.

I found this to be a very touching way to honor a
special woman who is not with us any more.

Aunt Crystal then called to make sure
the flowers would be found and
she and I spent a wonderful time 
on the phone...
sharing memories and catching up.

How do you honor the memory of those who
have gone on?  

Do you use the time to talk about happy memories?
Do you try to avoid all thoughts of it by being busy?

If you would like to share I would love to hear.

There is no way that we can forget these loved
ones but a phone call to another who loved them
can be such comfort.
Laughter at the shared memories and connecting
with those we might not otherwise share a conversation 
with that day seems like a very excellent way to 
honor our loved ones.

I think that sometimes we fear bringing
pain to another...
on the small chance they have forgotten.
That is not likely.

I remember one year a neighbor had lost her
daughter to a violent crime.
God impressed on me to reach out to 
her on that Mother's Day.
She was so very appreciative.
I didn't say a word...but I left a 
little teddy bear that had a card
letting her know that I knew
this day would be difficult and that 
I would be praying for her.

Please don't be afraid to reach out.
Grief is real and it is lasting.


Vee said...

A precious word, Becky. I'm taking it to heart. And I get an even better sense of who you are by the things you do. May all the memories of your grandmother be sweet. I'm sure that your Aunt Crystal misses her a great deal since her home was where your grandmother resided so it's especially sweet that she reached out with the flowers. So very thoughtful...

(third try...hope it flies)

Char said...

I am so very sorry that you lost your beloved grand mother a year ago. My own grand mother has been gone for many years now and I still feel her loss. You are right about remembering and honoring those we loved that have past, Char

Chicken Wrangler said...

How sweet - and so touching! People are afraid they will inflict more hurt, so they do nothing that might 'remind' the person of the loss of a loved one....I like your idea of the teddy bear - it is a great idea!

Tracy said...

It's so hard to lose loved ones, and just as hard when special days roll around. For years, my husband and I made sure that my grandma was with us the week of my grandfather's birthday and death. ( He died the day after his birthday.) We'd always reminisce about him, and I know it made her happy knowing that we didn't forget his birthday just because he was gone.

Elena said...

That is so sweet to do that! My mom's grave is not far away so I always go out and take Mary with me and put flowers on her grave. I take pictures and share them with my brother and sisters and then I usually call my dad.

LV said...

That is one thing no one can take away from us, great memories. It took me awhile to be able to talk about my husband. In time, it got better ,and now it give me pleasure to tell others about him.

Gayla said...

I am thinking if you and your first year anniversary of the heart. I think a special post is good. Or to cook their signature dish...

Mrs.Rabe said...

The flowers were lovely and thanks for bringing them to church to share with us all...