Saturday would have been my Grandma Esther's
87th birthday. This is our first year without her.
My Aunt, who Grandma lived with, could not allow
the day to go by unnoticed and sent flowers to Mom,
my Uncle Chuck and Grandma's church.
I found this to be a very touching way to honor a
special woman who is not with us any more.
Aunt Crystal then called to make sure
the flowers would be found and
she and I spent a wonderful time
on the phone...
sharing memories and catching up.
How do you honor the memory of those who
have gone on?
Do you use the time to talk about happy memories?
Do you try to avoid all thoughts of it by being busy?
If you would like to share I would love to hear.
There is no way that we can forget these loved
ones but a phone call to another who loved them
can be such comfort.
Laughter at the shared memories and connecting
with those we might not otherwise share a conversation
with that day seems like a very excellent way to
honor our loved ones.
I think that sometimes we fear bringing
pain to another...
on the small chance they have forgotten.
That is not likely.
I remember one year a neighbor had lost her
daughter to a violent crime.
God impressed on me to reach out to
her on that Mother's Day.
She was so very appreciative.
I didn't say a word...but I left a
little teddy bear that had a card
letting her know that I knew
this day would be difficult and that
I would be praying for her.
Please don't be afraid to reach out.
Grief is real and it is lasting.